I love you and I promise to look after you !


Hi and thanks for reading, I saw this statement the other day and I felt this was a really good opportunity to write and share some thoughts.

I guess this is something people say quite often, I am sure it’s said when people get in to a serious relationship with a partner.  This is also a statement you quite often hear parents say to their children and even something you would say to close friends.  All of those example are perfectly natural and a great example of being a kind and caring human being who is compelled to look after their loved ones, fantastic.

I also have another take on this, something much more important that we are less likely to do and certainly something I would never have done up until a few years ago.  How about you stand in front of the mirror and say these words.

Now I am sure you have already guessed the purpose of this blog wasn’t to get you to stand in front of the mirror talking to yourself.  However let’s think about what this really means as human beings we are often compelled to feel the need to look after others and care for them, we can find ourselves worrying about our family and friends, their unhealthy lifestyle, their poor choices or their fragile mental state.  At times we can worry about these things so much that we can make our selves sick but in the process how many times do we ever stop to think about ourselves and look at our own lives in detail and asses the choices that we are making, while we are being swept along in the normal throws of life.

How often do you find yourself sitting in a chair drinking wine, smoking a cigarette while eating a take away thinking I’m really worried about my daughter she just doesn’t seem very well at the moment I help she has enough money to be healthy.  Then we worry about our best friend who has the arse hole of a husband and she could do so much better, while we sit at home angry with our current partner just wishing they would piss off out with their friends.

Basically to love and want to take care of others is fantastic but does it really help, does it really amount to anything when we cannot love and take care of ourselves are we just forcing others to worry about us or are we simply just preaching the lessons to others that we are not prepared to act upon ourselves.  In my opinion to truly love and take care of others means you must truly love and take care of yourselve first.  Try it you won’t be disappointed. 

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Your life, your choice !

Thanks for reading, I have just come across a great quote today and I just wanted to expand on the quote and give my interpretation on how I understand it.  The great thing about quotes is they are powerful statements usually made by influential and memorable people but actually they could be read by 100 different people and it would mean something slightly different to all of us.

The quote I saw today was by Jeff Bezos

“Everything you are comes from your choices”

This is something I believe in very strongly and if you want to make big changes in your life, it’s something you need to be really aware and conscious of at all times.

Every decision we make, every act we carry out and everything we achieve comes through a serious of choices we have made be it positive or negative.  We have the ability to shape our lives and decide whether or not to be successful based on our choices.

You have a choice on how you take care of your body and how you eat and whether or not your exercise.  You are able to choose whether or not you want to stay in that job that makes you miserable doing just enough not to get sacked or whether you go to work everyday doing something you love and enjoy in which you could go on and be successful.

I am not suggesting that all choices are easy and the quality of your life will change over night but you have to make that choice to start somewhere.  You may be 10-15 years away from your end goal and where you want to be but you can choose to make today that first step in achieving greatness.  All you have to do is to make the conscious effort to be the best you can be at every given moment and try and get a little better each day.

If things are not working for you right now and you are not in the place you want to be, I am sure if you look back over the last few weeks, months or years you will come across a series of choices that you made however big or small that helped contribute to your current situation. 

Sometimes it is easier to bury our heads in the sand and look to blame others and convince ourselves that everything is out of our control but if you really look hard and are open and honest with yourself there will be a whole series’s of choices you have made where you could have made better ones, however that is ok in fact that is awesome the very fact that you are able to see it and understand is the first step in knowing how to fix it and put it right.  All of sudden there you are making the choices to turn things around.

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They are a natural ! 


Thanks for reading, I just wanted to give my thoughts on something you tend to hear in life.  I must say this particular statement tends to pop up when people or defending their own poor performance or trying to convince themself they can’t succeed.   It’s usually something on the lines of “It’s easy for them they are natural”

To me there is no such thing as a natural, you have to work hard to be good at something and even harder to be great.  I understand that when we first do something some people will be better at it than others and it seems to come a little bit more naturally but that does not mean we are not all capable of doing it.  What really makes the difference is the motivation and the will to become successful, it’s about finding that connection with something, genuinely doing something you love and enjoy and applying time and repetition.

The most elite sports people in the world where not born at the level there are at today but they have such a love and a passion for what they do that enables them to put in the extra effort to make all the sacrifices that other people are not prepared to do in order to be the best.  

So if you do not have that passion that love and that hunger then it’s easy to look at others and say I can’t be as good as them they are a natural.  No, you just do not have the same drive, ambition and passion to dedicate the time and repetition that it has taken for them to get to that level.

If you truly want to be great at something then you have to find something that you love and enjoy, something that you do not mind making the necessary sacrifices for, something where you are prepared to do more than others around you in order to be successful.  This is not about being a natural but about working hard to become great, it’s never easy at the top.

Just keep pushing and stay elevated 

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The butterfly wasn’t always beautiful 

Its been a while since I posted.  As I have been away developing my own skill set and growing and changing in to who I am today.  This seemed an appropriate way to come back.

The butterfly a creature that is often admired for its beauty but rarely does anybody think about the massive changes this creature has made in a relatively short space of time to become this beautiful.

The butterfly should give every body hope that no matter how you are feeling now and whatever stage of your life you are in, there will always be time to develop and become beautiful.  There have been people that have seen you in the past and like a chrsyalis in a pile of leaves, you went unnoticed you were unable to stand out from the ground, with a little time and hard work you can evelove in to a beautiful butterfly.

Whatever stage of your life are in and how ever far you have already come there is always time to continue to grow and show your true colours.  The same can be said others and the people you have met throughout your life, people change and everyone should be given an opportunity to see how they have evolved, you could have met someone previously when they were a mere chrsyalis and now they have grown and evolved in to a beautiful butterfly.

Who are today is not the finished the article and even the most hardened of chrsyalis will get the opportunity to work and grow in to the most beautiful of butterflies.

I Feel Like I’m not good enough!

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I am writing this post in response to a comment received by a subscriber who has asked me to cover this topic.  I do not have any back story for this person so I am not completely  sure in what area of their life they feel like this or indeed why but I will cover this post as general topic and hopefully they and you will find it helpful.

Firstly to feel like you are not good enough in some ways is fantastic because it doesn’t matter how old are you or how good you are at something, you can always get better to feel not good enough is the trigger you need to get better and to start learning.  If the reason you feel you are not good enough is because you are trying to live to the ideal of someone else’s life or there vision for you, then that is a problem.  As I have written about in a previous post you only have to be who you are.

My very first blog was about having a reason why and to feel not good enough in some aspects is the perfect reason why, its never about where you are now it is all about where you are going to be.  In simple it is about thinking where you would like to be and building a plan on how you are going to get there, what do you need to learn, what steps do you need to take, what changes do you need to make. Then it is all about taking the necessary action to get there.

Another negative of not feeling good enough is because you are not living in the moment and you are focusing to far ahead on where you want to be.  You have to have a vision and a goal and then its about breaking it down in to small manageable steps so you can focus on living in the moment and just trying to get a little bit better each day, if you know more about something or you are better at something today than you were yesterday then guess what you are succeeding and developing and this should be celebrated you are doing a great job, remember its not about where you are now it is all about where you are going to be.

There is a well known statement that talking to yourself is the first sign of madness, I couldn’t disagree more that doesn’t mean you have to have a full blown conversation with yourself on the bus but you should be having lots of internal self talk sessions all the time. The biggest help in not feeling good enough is just about changing the language we use when we do talk to ourselves.  How does this sound in your head, “I can’t do that I’m rubbish at it” doesn’t make you feel great does it, try to substitute that self talk for “I really wish I knew how to do that, I am going to find out how to do it” the same self talk delivered in two totally different ways, if you do this often enough your brain will be re-programmed to think positively and you will start feeling that actually right now you are the best you can be and once you have executed your plan you will be unstoppable.

If you would like me to cover anything for you, please subscribe and write in the comments section and hopefully I can help you too.  Stay Elevated!

You have to take action!

 
To become successful in any part of your life you have to TAKE ACTION.  Sounds obvious I guess, bit of a silly statement.  The reality is most people do not, the majority of people you meet in your life will be either doing a job they hate, in a relationship that makes them miserable, be unhappy with their body and their diet, they will not have as much money as they want and just generally be miserable or at best they will be ok. Why? Because they do not TAKE ACTION.

They have all the best will in the world, they have every plan about what they will do tomorrow but today “my favourite programme is on the TV so I just do not have time right now!” You will encounter these people every single day and some of them have the best ideas you will ever hear but they just do not TAKE ACTION.

The key is you have to keep moving forward at all times all you need to do is just try and get a little better each day, every little achievement no matter how small should be celebrated because that is TAKING ACTION.  So you are 50lbs over the weight you want to be and tomorrow you have three healthy meals, by the end of the week you have only had 1 cheat day and you have been to the gym once in that week that’s awesome you are TAKING ACTION.  You wake up in the morning and you decide I do not want to do this job anymore, I am sick of it I need to do something I love and enjoy and instead of wasting your evening watching the TV, you google how to write the best CV or resume and you looked at a couple of vacancies on line, you haven’t got a new job yet but you TOOK ACTION.

It’s a very old saying that Rome wasnt built in a day and you know what it wasn’t, you maybe 5, 10 or even 20 years away from living out your dreams and realising your full potential but as long as you are a little bit closer today than you were yesterday then you’re TAKING ACTION and you’re beginning to walk the path of success, it’s a marathon not a sprint.

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You only have to be, who you are!


A really important lesson to us all right now, when looking to gain peace in our lives and ultimately go on to be successful, ALWAYS BE WHO YOU ARE!

With society as it is right now we are always under constant pressure to confirm and to settle and live our lives in accordance to the way other people think it should be lived.  This is the biggest single mistake as a human being we can make, to have any success in our lives be it professional or personal the first thing we must do is embrace and master who we are first.  We can never change who we are however we can become the very best version of ourselves.

Inside us all is a set of morales and values to which we must live by and must be our truth, when you get that little niggle in your gut that is telling you the action you are about to take is steering you away from this path, you must listen to your gut and stop.

The magical thing about this is the more you become engaged in who you are and do things for you, the more your confidence grows, the more you are likely to stay in great shape and eat well and the stronger all round individual you will become.

The great thing about the world is that like attracts like, so the more you are focused on yourself and doing things for you then you will start to realise that the people and circumstances that you have always wanted in your life will start to appear.

By living a life that is set out and controlled by others you will find every relationship you are involved in will start to feel false and ultimately cause you some unhappiness.

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Dealing with FEAR and ANXIETY 


Firstly I would just like to state that I am neither a doctor or a counsellor, however what I am is a coach and someone who has previously been where you are right now if you are reading this.

Fear and anxiety is the menace that creeps up on you slowly and then bang it smacks you in face.  It’s so hard to describe, impossible to see yet can be so devastating it can ruin your life and turn it in to nothing but an existence.

Our mind is the most wonderful and beautiful thing with have but at the same time the most unpleasant and dark object we can come to bare.

I remember those days just wanting to go out and have fun, spend time with friends and family but unable to leave the house because I was so crippled with fear that something awful was going to happen.  I was going to be the focus of every bodies attention and it was just can to be an awful experience, every possible scenario played out in my head about the immediate future and all of them awful.  After this I then had the internal battle from the rational side of my head saying “you are letting yourself down, your family down, what is wrong with you” I can still remember those internal battles that turned the most simple and fun situations in life in to nightmare.

What I would like to share is how I changed and what I did to rid myself of this silent assassin.  I am very conscious of how people feel while they are suffering as I to have been there but the reality of what happened was a very simple shift in mind set and belief but it does take work.

When you start to look and analysis the things that are causing you fear and anxiety in your life, I can pretty much guarantee that 99% of them have not happened yet.  That’s right just think about that for a moment everything you fear all those terrible things that are going to happen to you, have not actually happened. The other 1% you are worried and stressed about guess what they have happened and you can not do a thing to change them.

Uncertainty and in-action breeds fear and anxiety, certaintity and action breeds confidence.

The work you need to do is train your brain to live in the moment this very minute the here and now.  Unless you are in a particularly dangerous or life threatening environment the moment is not scary it has no fear it has no reason to be anxious.  There is no potential disastrous consequence because you do not live in potential, you live in the now the sofa you are sitting on, the street you are walking down, you are fine in this very moment and that is where you must stay! 

Please feel free to leave any comments and if there are any areas of your life you would like me to comment on or support you through just ask. Stay elevated to